Domestic abuse affects thousands of individuals across the UK every year, often behind closed doors and hidden from view. If you’re wondering what is domestic abuse? you may already be facing something difficult and uncertain. Abuse can take many forms, not all of them leave physical marks, and under UK family law, the definition of domestic abuse extends beyond physical violence to include emotional, financial, and controlling behaviours.

At Berkson Family Law Solicitors, we regularly work with people who are unsure whether their experiences qualify as abuse. The answer is often yes, and understanding what counts as abuse is the first step in seeking support and protection. This article will guide you through the different types of domestic abuse recognised in law, with real-world examples to help you make sense of your situation.

Emotional and Psychological Abuse

Emotional abuse can be incredibly damaging, even if it leaves no visible signs. It often involves constant criticism, name-calling, or behaviour designed to undermine your confidence and sense of self-worth. You may feel like you’re “walking on eggshells,” trying not to upset someone who belittles you or blames you for problems in the relationship.

If you’re repeatedly made to feel small, ashamed, or afraid of speaking up, this is emotional abuse. The impact can be long-lasting, and UK family law recognises the seriousness of this type of harm, especially when it takes place over time.

Financial Abuse

Money is often used as a form of control in abusive relationships. Financial abuse happens when one partner restricts the other’s access to money or financial independence. This might involve being prevented from having your own bank account, being forced to hand over wages or benefits, or being denied the ability to work or study.

If your access to money is being controlled, or if you’re left without the means to make independent choices about your finances, this may be a sign of abuse. UK family law acknowledges this as a legitimate form of domestic abuse, and legal protection is available.

Coercive and Controlling Behaviour

Controlling behaviour is about isolating you from sources of support and monitoring or restricting your everyday actions. Coercive control is now a recognised criminal offence and includes behaviours like checking your phone, tracking your movements, telling you who you can or can’t see, or making threats if you don’t comply with demands.

Often, this type of abuse builds gradually. You may begin to feel like you no longer have freedom over your own life, what you wear, who you speak to, or even when you leave the house. If this sounds familiar, it may be coercive control, and it is taken seriously under domestic abuse law.

Physical Abuse

Physical violence is one of the more visible forms of abuse, but it’s important to know that even a single incident can be enough to seek legal protection. Physical abuse may include hitting, slapping, pushing, or any form of unwanted physical contact that causes fear or harm.

It doesn’t always start with violence, many abusive relationships escalate over time. If arguments have turned into threats, or if you or your children have been harmed or feel unsafe in your own home, this is a clear signal that support is needed.

How UK Family Law Can Help

If you’re facing any of the situations described above, it’s important to know that UK family law offers protections. Through the courts, you may be able to obtain a non-molestation order, which prevents the abusive person from contacting or approaching you. In some cases, an occupation order can also be granted, allowing you to remain in your home while the other person is required to leave, even if the property is jointly owned.

These legal protections are often available quickly, especially in urgent situations, and many people qualify for legal aid to cover the costs. At Berkson Family Law Solicitors, we are experienced in securing these orders and guiding clients through the process with compassion and confidentiality.

You Are Not Alone

Recognising abuse can be overwhelming. You may have spent a long time thinking what’s happening is your fault, or that it’s not serious enough to seek help. But if you’re reading this and wondering if your situation counts, that’s often the first sign that something isn’t right. Whether it’s controlling behaviour, emotional manipulation, or physical harm, your safety and wellbeing are what matter most.

You do not have to wait for things to get worse. Legal support is available, and taking that first step to understand your options can be life-changing.

Let Us Help You Take That First Step

If anything in this article resonates with you, or if you’re still unsure and want to speak with someone who understands, please reach out. At Berkson Family Law Solicitors, we specialise in domestic abuse legal support and can advise you on your rights under UK family law. You can request a free consultation, and our team will be available to listen without judgement.

Whether you need immediate protection, or you’re simply looking for answers, we’re here to help. Contact us today to speak to one of our experienced solicitors and take the first step towards feeling safe and supported.

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